As a result of the choices I make when it comes to eating, I sometimes find myself in the company of friends and family who feel the need to apologize to me about their own food choices. Recently, a good friend sheepishly asked if I would be okay if she ordered a steak while we were out dining together and another pal ardently defended her love of bacon at an early morning breakfast date.
Let me just get this out in the open – there is no need to apologize! I choose not to eat meat – that is true – but I promise to make no judgements about your selections. I will keep my own personal lifestyle choices private (unless you ask) and I will absolutely not jump to any conclusions about your character based on what you eat in front of me. Heck, I am certainly no purist. I ate meat until well into my 30’s, I will literally shove you out of the way to get at a fresh bag of potato chips and a glass of red wine and a gooey chocolate dessert are two of my very favourite things in the world. (Of course all of this is null and void if you are my husband – in which case I will freely offer my unbridled opinion….sorry Mark!)
I recently found myself browsing the housewares department at Anthropologie while my mom and sister tried on clothes (this likely explains why they always look fashionably dressed and I can most often be found wearing my track pants ; ) and I stumbled upon a beautiful book called Pure Vegan by Joseph Shuldiner that I just had to buy.
The recipes look amazing and the photographs are downright mouth-watering but what really hooked me was the introduction to the book. The author says:
“My intentions in writing this book are not to debate the virtues of one belief system over another, nor to promote the health benefits of eating a plant-based diet. Aside from having little interest in these debates, I’m not qualified to take up a pair of boxing gloves in their defense. Making my own day-to-day choices about what to eat and what not to eat is complicated enough without trying to tell you what you should and shouldn’t eat. And that, my friend, is what this book is about: making choices that feel natural and right to you; to sow a few seeds in the back of your mind and help you cultivate your own plant-based culinary repertoire.”
Well said! I felt an immediate kinship with Joseph Shuldiner and his lovely and non-judgemental philosophy towards eating. We all have to walk our own culinary path and it is often one fraught with allergies, preferences, mixed messages from food producers and the media, childhood eating experiences, guilt, weight-struggles and financial issues (not to mention the complications thrown in if you are trying to feed a picky family).
So order what you will and enjoy every mouthful. I won’t judge you….. and I trust you will look the other way as I wipe chip crumbs onto my jogging pants.
7 thoughts on “Judgement & Food Choices”
Wow, you were quick getting this out!
We’ll be looking forward to some yummy food, while wearing anthropologie clothes:)
Love this! I often find myself in the same situation with people apologizing to me for their food choices. We each have our own path and I’m no one to judge. That’s why I started blogging. I wanted to reach only those who wanted the information; not “shame” my friends. The funny thing is many of them have found their way to the information when they were ready. I’m going to check out that book. It looks wonderful. I will fight you for the red wine and potato chips too!
What a lovely thoughtful reply Lauren! Thank you for sharing. Great point – everyone must come to things only when they are ready.
And I’d happily share a bag of chips and a bottle of wine with you any day : )
Love your post Lori, I was a vegetarian for 10 years and now not so much(although I feel my time coming again) however I am always inspired by your blog and others. I incorporate vegetarian meals each week and promote it to my family when I can, so I really appreciate your ideas and recipes. I am glad you pass no judgement….except maybe for soccer fundraisers…LOL!?
Thanks for your support Krista! Now if only we could get that meat company to carry tofu steaks…; )
Thank you Lori for excerpting my vegan manifesto from my book. Glad you agree.
Thank you for writing such a beautiful book! I can’t wait to try out your recipes!